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  • Anya MacFarlane

Self-Care What does it mean to you?

What is self-care?

An explanation in an article for psychologists on development for Self Care, the following might be enough to put anyone off self care, I would say stick with it!

"Self Care is defined as a multidimensional, multifaceted process for purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning and enhance well-being".

Wow, I had to read this a number of times before I interpreted it as, making a plan of different activities that will allow for health and well-being...........

Thank goodness it was shortened to SELF-CARE!


Self-care is vital for building resilience so you feel able to deal with stressful times in your life.

However self-care is often viewed as a luxury rather than a necessity and can add unwanted physical, mental and financial pressure so in this time hungry society, looking after yourself can be seen as a status symbol. You can only look after yourself if you can afford expensive spa weekends, luxurious foreign holidays, winter sun, skiing........... hence the financial strain.

When you are already very busy with work, family, planning, the house, finding time for yourself can be viewed as lazy or selfish, adding mental tiredness............

All of these factors can be physically draining so much so when you sit down, it's a slump to switch off rather than being in a place of peace mindfulness and reflection or you reach for a glass of wine that turns into a bottle a night or straight to the snack cupboard and consume anything to be seen.

Whatever self-care means to you. Make the time, see it as a battery recharge so you can do everything you feel you need to. This week someone reckoned it to putting on your own oxygen mask before putting one on your child!

You can only look after others if you look after yourself first................

Make a plan

List out all your self-care activities, they don't have to be things you already know you like, they can be new activities, ones you haven't tried before. It is possible to engage in a new activity and if it doesn't meet your idea of self care strike it off and if you love it, keep it in.

Once you have a list, add one into your week.

  • a cup of tea, listening to relaxing music for 10 mins

when this is added into your week and becoming a weekly ritual and embedded, then add in another.

such as;

  • Reading a book

  • Warm bath/shower then into snuggly pj's

  • Gentle stroll in the evening

  • Bit of zentangle -

  • A coffee with friends

  • A breakfast/lunch date with family

  • A workout session -

Finally always remember that quality time for you is key, anyone else's opinion of how you organise time for yourself isn't needed, it's your decision.


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